Kick Ass Moms
Alyssa, St Thomas
How many kids do you have?
What is the title of the current chapter of your life?
It's Bitter Sweet
What is the last picture you took on your phone?
My daughter eating blueberries
What is your favourite mom accessory?
A wipe clutch! I should have carried wipes before I had a baby! They are so useful.
What is something (not your family) that you can't live without?
My day planner! I am obsessed with scheduling!
If you were a TV/movie mom, who would you be?
Jen from Life in Pieces! I think she is honest, open and hilarious af!
What is your current job?
I work two jobs right now. Both part-time. I work as an intake worker for Elgin County. I do Community Support Services intakes for 4 different organizations at at least 50 programs. I help seniors and people with disabilities find supports that can help to keep them independent in their homes.
My second job is working in a group home and in the community where I support people with developmental disabilities.
What do you love most about your job?
I love supporting people and feel like I am making a difference in these peoples lives. I also love interacting with people and meeting new people all the time.
What do you like least about your job?
I don't like the hours. I often work weekends and wish I could spend that time with my daughter.
What is the hardest thing about being a mom who also works?
The hardest thing is dropping my daughter off at daycare and hearing her cry and feeling the guilt of leaving her. I also feel guilty enjoying my work sometimes and feel like I should be at home with my daughter.
What is the best thing about being a mom who also works?
Picking up my daughter from daycare and seeing her smile at me. Having the opportunity to interact with people and use my work skills!
Sometimes as moms we think we can "do it all". Do you think this is possible?
No we cannot do it all. I don't think it is possible and it shouldn't be an expectation put on parents. I am of the belief that it takes a village to raise a child. I think it's healthy to allow other people to care for my child - not only for me to allow time for self care but also to allow my child to develop trust in other people. Her grandparents love to care for her and I want her to have a good relationship with them. I also think I consciously put off my other responsibilities, such as cleaning, to spend time with my daughter, and if my floor doesn't get cleaned then I don't beat myself up.
Mom-guilt is something a lot of moms struggle with. Is this something that you struggle with? Is there anything you do to help you overcome/get through your mom guilt?
I do struggle with mom guilt! I think most moms do, working or not. I mostly feel mom guilt from leaving my child when I go to work. I think the main way I overcome this is positive self-talk. I think being honest and realizing that what I am doing is right for our family is very helpful. I have also stopped comparing myself to other people and this has helped a lot as well.
What advice would you give to a new mom who is trying to balance her family and her job?
Don't be too hard on yourself! It is okay to enjoy your time away from your children and enjoy your work! Find someone you trust to care for your child in your absence and be open with that person. I have had conversations with my daycare provider about how guilty I feel leaving and she always reassures me that my daughter is having fun and is happy by sending pictures throughout the day.
Visit Alyssa's blog "Moms On Strike". Her posts showcase the reality of what it can be like to be a mom in today's world.